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2018 has come and gone, virtually in the blink of an eye, as most years seem to have come January 1st. It wasn’t a year that stood out in a particularly good or bad way. But it was memorable, as each year is. There were highs and lows, peaks and valleys. It was Riley’s first full year of life and our first full year as a family of five. Our first full year living in Georgia. A year in which people I care deeply about experienced massive loss. And a year in which things seemed to shift and change greatly.
But mostly, it was a year of learning.
I learned that a lot about friendship this year. That not all of the people you thought would be in your life forever will be. And that a few truly amazing friends from different places in your life that you can really count on are all you need. That sometimes you have to let go of friendships that aren’t meant to be held onto. I’ve also learned that you can find your way back to people in your life who you may have thought were lost. And that is just a really great feeling.
I’ve also learned to let go of things in life that can’t be controlled and go with the flow. The house will be a mess sometimes, work may not get finished and schedules changed. But being present with my kids is more important that frantically cleaning up toys or finish an email. Babies don’t keep, childhood goes by in a blink and I’ve tried to slow down and enjoy my children in the moment.
I’ve learned to ask for help and delegate. I’m the person who takes on all of the tasks and tries to do it all myself. This is one of my greatest struggles – something a boss told me in a yearly review once that stuck with me. But I’ve learned that doing that is not healthy. It’s ok to need help and to ask for it, and extremely healthy to do so. I’m not ready to let all of the control go, but I’ve done it with a few things in 2018 and it has brought me so much relief. Honestly, more so than I expected.
I was going to devote this first full week of the year to 2018. But I’m changing my mind, and moving right on into the New Year. I’m planning to stop looking back and go forward in 2019. Both in my life and in this space. I used to pour myself into this blog, but last year was my biggest time away from it. And I’ve missed it so much! Parenting three kids has been challenging, and A Dash of Pretty has taken a backseat. But, this is a new year, there is a new look to the blog, and I plan to manage my time wisely.
Instead of resolutions, I’m going to strive to be my best self this year. To be kind to others, to spend as much time in the moment, to be present with my babies, and to enjoy each day to the fullest. I want to accept the things that I cannot change, always try to find the positive, and do my best to let go of the negative. Not only for myself, but as an example for my children.
Thank you for joining me in 2018! I hope that your 2019 is off to an amazing, fresh start!