Today, I want to discuss one of my least favorite topics, but one that always seems to be top of mind: body confidence after baby. UGH. Like, the biggest ugh of all time. This is a sensitive subject, so I am just going to give my two cents on it based on my own experiences and what I know first hand. I can only speak for myself and appreciate everyone’s thoughts and opinions on this matter.
Getting back to my pre-baby body is top of mind multiple times a day. It’s also incredibly frustrating because it takes a long time and a lot of work. And nothing is every exactly the same. Don’t get me wrong, I have a deep appreciation for my body and what it can do.
Finding body confidence after baby is even more challenging for me. Physical changes skew things for me mentally and I have to work at changing my outlook. But, it is definitely worth the work for me emotionally, mentally and physically. There are a few things I try to do on a regular basis to help raise my body confidence after baby and I wanted to share them with you today. I’m hoping we can start a conversation that helps us all feel better about ourselves and find new tools to feel like our best selves from the inside out.
[ Knixwear bra ]
Give Yourself Some Grace
We live in a world of beautiful Instagram feeds, fad diets and in-your-face celebrities. If you open Us Weekly, you can see the latest celeb mom with tight abs two weeks after giving birth. While it isn’t reality for basically all humans to bounce back like that, it’s still all around us. And it causes crazy pressure. Unnecessary pressure and an unrealistic view of things. I know that I have to remind myself that I am a person – a real person. My days are slammed and working out and eating as right as I want to aren’t always going to happen. It’s also important to remember this important fact: I grew a human being. It takes a toll on everything! Josh tells me this frequently, and it is something we all need to remember. Give yourself some grace, you grew a person.
Recognize and Appreciate What You Have Done
This follows what I said above. I have given birth to three beautiful, healthy babies. I have had a pregnancy where I gained 65 pounds, and one where I only gained 35. If I’m being completely honest, I gained less during my pregnancy with Riley than any other, but I am having the hardest time yet getting it to come back off. Some days I just want to feel bad about myself and do nothing about it. And I do just that. Other days, I am incredibly motivated to diet and exercise and get it together. And I do that, too. But no matter what I feel on any given day, I try to remember that I have these amazing little people and that it was a lot of physical work to get them here. And I am eternally grateful for that and that gives me confidence.
Workout For The Right Reasons
I am a notoriously obsessive worker outer. But I haven’t always done it for the right reasons. After Avery and Greyson were born, I worked out just to get it done and burn calories. And I never saw any results. I would spend an hour on the elliptical, hating life, and my weight and body composition wouldn’t budge. When Greyson was two years old I discovered Barre3 and hot yoga, and my entire outlook on working out changed. I love how I feel after both of those classes and I genuinely look forward to them. They don’t just help me feel strong physically, but they help me focus and relax mentally. I have never seen such bigger physical and mental changes from workouts and endorphins. My only regret is that it took me so long to discover the right way to workout for me.
Get A Good Bra
Let’s be serious, the girls just are never the same, whether you breast feed or not. And things aren’t comfortable for a while either. For me, comfort is key. But I don’t want to feel sloppy, even if no one can see what I am wearing. I need support, but in a really gentle way. My current favorite bra is by Knix Wear. This bra is lightweight, but gives me the right amount of support. It’s reversible, so I get two bras in one. I can nurse in this, wear sheerer tops and work out in it, covering all of my bases. I love the light feel and support of this seamless bra. Plus the fact that I could toss out my gross maternity and nursing bras and replace them with my Knix bra helps keep everything in place and give me an extra boost of confidence. If I feel the slightest bit put together, my confidence level rises immensely.
What makes you feel good about yourself and what helps boost your body confidence after baby or otherwise? I am not an expert in this by any means, but thank you for letting me share what helps me with you.
I hope you have a great rest of your day and stay confident! -XO
This post is sponsored by Knixwear. All thoughts and opinions are my own.